Sometimes the best intentions and plans for birthing your baby can go out the window when the baby has a different idea on how and when it decides to be born, or if the hospital staff are not gentle and respectful of your wishes during the sensitivity and vulnerability of your labour and birth.
When what is supposed to be the most joyful day in your life is instead a negative experience, it can leave women feeling in shock, disempowered, violated and traumatised which can often lead to post natal depression (16%) and post-traumatic stress disorder (6%) which can affect mothering in a negative way. This is compounded when the majority of comments after the birth are usually “Well at least you had a healthy baby!”, which completely dismisses your feelings. People can forget that your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing are equally important as the baby’s.
One way to help heal from a difficult birth is to connect with those feelings, to release all your pent up grief and tears while feeling heard and validated, and then be given the chance to reconnect with your baby in the calm, nurtured and supported environment in which you envisioned birthing your baby whilst pregnant, with a caring and non-judgemental, professional birth support as your guide.
I find that doing this in a warm bath with candles, aromatherapy oils and flower petals creates an ambiance that feels cleansing and cathartic, and yet full of beauty, which can make for stunning photographs to look back on if you choose to have it captured, and can help reconnect with your baby in a safe space where your experience is honoured.
This can be done postnatally, whenever you feel ready, or during a subsequent pregnancy to prepare yourself so that those fears do not cause emotional and physical blockages during your next birth.
I have formulated my Birth Trauma Release ceremonies from the influences of Rebirthing, Aware Parenting, Gestalt Therapy and the Shamanic Burning Ritual. A session will cost you $220 for approximately 2 hours but may vary due to extra time (travel charges may apply for out of my local area). Photographs can also be taken during the ceremony if you wish, at a small extra charge of $50, with all edited photos given back to you to keep forever. If you have me as your doula, this ceremony can be done during your pregnancy as part of my package at no extra charge.
Here is some feedback from some of my happy clients:
“I had a pregnancy / birth healing with Virginia and I recommend this to anyone who has any fears around giving birth, especially if you have any trauma whatsoever around a previous birth experience. Virginia is a beautiful, empathetic lightworker and I immediately felt comfortable around her presence. She listened to my story and worked through all my fears with me. A few days later I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl with no pain relief whatsoever. I remembered everything we worked through in our session and I had trust within myself, my body and my baby. I breathed through all the contraction pains. The birth actually felt magical, I saw the pain as a part of me rather than something happening to me. Now I have no fears to go through it again and actually look forward to another birth experience. Virginia continues to keep in touch after our session to check in on me and if I have any questions which I find invaluable and supportive. Thank you Virginia 💜”
“I saw Virginia for a birth trauma release about 20 weeks into my current pregnancy. I went into it not really sure what to expect but Virginia was so comforting and understanding and really made it such a beautiful experience. I have since been able to form a great connection and bond with my baby and am so excited for my birth and what is to come.”
“I engaged Virginia recently for a birth trauma release ceremony after experiencing a traumatic unplanned c-section with my son. At first I was hesitant at the prospect of sharing my feelings but Virginia made me feel extremely comfortable and I had no trouble expressing my real emotions about how I felt during my labour, my surgery and now. The birth trauma release ceremony helped me to reframe all the negative thoughts I had surrounding my son’s birth and to help me be able to see all the positives through all the darkness. Overall it was a very powerful, beautiful, personal and healing event that I believe will help me on my journey to have my VBAC in the next coming weeks. I recommend the birth trauma release ceremony with Virginia for anyone who may be struggling to come to terms with their labour and birth of their child.”
I thought I’d take this opportunity to say thank you. No one has taken the time to really listen to me like the way you did. You helped me reconnect with my emotions where I was able to let go and release. I felt I was in a safe space where my feelings were validated. We easily connected because you genuinely cared. I was also impressed with the amount of useful information you shared with me and after our session I felt empowered. I was so relieved and emotionally ready for the birth of my 2nd baby. Thank you so much.”
“Virginia organised a rebirth ceremony for me when our son was back home from NICU [after being born at 27 weeks]. It was such a special ceremony which helped me to acknowledge my grief, let go of it and be positive with my mind.
I cannot imagine how we could have been without Virginia’s support and wisdom.
Thank you Virginia for your wonderful service!”
~ Noriko (doula)
“Thanks so much for today. It’s good to release shit that no longer serves…. and to hear that it’s ok to forgive and it is time….. I really appreciate the time, energy and support you gave me today….. Thank you so much. Xxx”
If you are interested in booking a Birth Trauma Release Ceremony, I am happy to have a Skype chat with you first so that you know you will be comfortable unloading your feelings in my presence. Please get in contact to start your journey to healing.